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Welcome to Episode 138 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I explore the power of practice on our ability to communicate ideas, stories, and ourselves in clear and simple ways.
Do you ever wonder what makes some people really good at getting their point across, while the rest of us struggle to communicate what we’re thinking?
The news is good because rather than it simply being a case that certain people are naturally gifted, the truth is they are good because they have done something all of us are able to do…
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The ‘open-plan’ office, communal workspace. How does it make you feel?
It is a concept that originated in the 1950’s in Germany by a team looking to increase the flow of ideas and communication within teams and organisations.
More recent studies however are beginning to suggest that this is not quite the solution they were looking for. In fact it even perpetuates the very problem that the open-plan office purported to solve.
And these kinds of setups are detrimental for introverts and highly sensitive people. The uncontrolled interactions, higher levels of stress, and lower levels of concentration and motivation affect everyone, but have an even more significant impact on those of us who are internally orientated to the world.
In many ways the workplace is an important frontier for us to question as a part of the ‘quiet revolution’. As a place where self-confidence can be made and broken, we must address certain environments as unsuitable and even damaging to half of those people trying to work in them.
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Welcome to Episode 137 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I look back at my time at university and explore some of the challenges that introverts and highly sensitive people might experience in higher education.
I wanted to talk through some of the challenges that introverts in particular might face when going off to college or university. Maybe you are going soon, in which case this should give you some permissions and things to think about before you get there.
Or maybe someone you know is going soon. In that case, this might help you prepare THEM.
My aim is to help you see that the experience is not the same for everyone, that the concept of ‘being a student’ isn’t one that we all embrace equally, but that you also have tools at your disposal to make the absolute best of it.
I had a bit of a sad conversation with a friend recently. He had just got back off holiday and was disappointed to realise that it hadn’t helped. He was still bored and dissatisfied with life, especially his job.
Even though he has worked at his current job for five years he has reached a place where he no longer feels enthusiasm for it. Not just in a temporary way either. It’s a much longer term ‘what am I doing here’ sort of situation. So he’s at a bit of a loss as to what he wants to do.
We had a chat about this concept that he identified as one of the core problems…He seemed to have lost his ‘Being Cause’. The thing that gives him a sense of purpose and value in life.
There were certain aspects and factors at work that he realised were chipping away at him and the entire organisation’s culture. It wasn’t the role itself but specific parts and people that were bringing him down and affecting his sense of self-worth and value within the company.
Welcome to Episode 136 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss why introverts and highly sensitive people often use certain elements of our appearance to express our personalities.
…whether we realise it or not.
Change. It keeps happening.
Yep, change is one of life’s unchangeable inevitabilities.
I came across a video the other day from the very first interview I ever did, in 2010 with John Garrison at a monthly gig I used to run with my friend, Steve Jones at a coffee house in Coventry.
Watching it made me realise that wow, I have come along way in 5 years. My confidence has grown as well as my self-awareness and understanding of what I want to acheive in each conversation I have.
This improvement didn’t happen over night. It didn’t take one course or book. It is something that I learn bit by bit, allowing change to happen slowly, steadily, incrementally, over time. It’s the kind of change that is only evident from a vantage point in the future looking back at the point from which I have come.
And it is driven by showing up doing; ticking another one off, trying something small that I picked up from the last time and learning something small to try next time.
Welcome to Episode 135 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss why some people seem to have more time than everyone else, and ways in which we can unlock more of it for ourselves.
It’s not an episode of productivity shortcuts and hacks. If you’re after that kind of thing then you’ll be disappointed. I concentrate instead on something far more important than this idea that we need shortcuts to get more done…
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“When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better” – Unknown
We all have habits in our lives that we would like to change.
Maybe your experience of futile attempts at making sustainable transformation in your life have made you frustrated and even pessimistic. You think twice about making yet another commitment to the same old thing; losing weight, learning an instrument, becoming a better friend, working on writing the book you keep talking about.
We know what needs to change, but whenever we take the plunge before long we seem to just slip back into the old habits once again.
Welcome to Episode 134 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode we consider ways to approach the inevitable social hangovers that we all experience as introverts and highly sensitive people.
I share a number of Don’ts that I have learned over the years from times like these.
“Anger is an intense and flammable emotion that we might be uncomfortable with, but we need to become comfortable with it because we all have it inside and if we’re trying to suppress it then it can display in more unhealthy ways. Anger is helpful and clean.” – Caroline van Kimmenade (The Happy Sensitive)
How do you feel when you see injustice and unfairness? What does it do to you inside?
Chances are they get to you in some way. They speak to the core of your being where your heart beats for change with a longing for things to be different.
There is a positive anger that responds within you. A clean and helpful anger. A signal that many sensitive types experience when their mind and body are calling something to attention.
Anger can get placed on a list of so-called negative emotions; things such as fear, anxiety, sadness, and jealousy. It is a strong emotion, it can feel volatile and we are taught in many areas of life, to bottle it up.
But it’s important to let it speak so that we can choose our response to it. It is OK to get angry. The experience of anger itself is not the problem. It’s how you deal with and respond to the anger is where things can get messy.