Sheep Dressed Like Wolves -
Dehydrated, empty, tired, flat, counting down the seconds until I can crawl back under the duvet. I recognise this feeling. I’m hungover.
I didn’t drink anything yesterday. In fact I haven’t touched a drop of alcohol all week. Maybe it’s not a hangover, perhaps I’m just coming down with something. No, it definitely feels like a hangover.
This was me early today. I am feeling extremely hungover. I don’t want to leave the sofa. I don’t want to be sociable and talk to anyone, I just need to sleep it off. All the symptoms are the same, it’s just the source (or sauce) that is different.
I spent yesterday doing creative work with several groups of people I didn’t really know. It was a long day and involved being in the car for five hours too. I left the house at 8.30am and got back at midnight.
The choice to choose is the truth that hides in plain site. It’s easy to miss when you’re so busy getting on and doing the stuff that needs to be done.
The major choice we have to make is whether we choose the choices we make, or whether we allow other things to choose for us…
Doing ‘what needs to be done’ is a choice to allow ‘what needs to be done’ to choose our actions for us.
We displace our choices all the time. We buy things because we liked the advert or because the packaging is appealing. We have traditions because they follow the rules for how things are ‘supposed to be done’ even when there is no rational explanation for it.
There is a moment when we must finally stop imagining what could be, and start applying what already is, in order to make what feels impossible for us, happen.
To stand at the foot of a majestic mountain is enough if all we want to do is see a majestic mountain.
In fact, the best idea would be to step away from it slightly.
But if our dream is to see the world from the top of that mountain then we need to start climbing.
The podcast is back after a couple of months off. It has a new jingle and I am taking a more spontaneous, less scripted approach to the show. Inspired by latest book, The Gentle Rebel the podcast will be dedicated to discussing ideas around introversion and High Sensitivity, and how we can make a difference even when we find the world an overwhelming place in which to exist.
In this episode I introduce the concept of the High Sensitive Person and ask whether you identify with any of the traits.
- Do you long to break out of your shell but feel overwhelmed with the desire to run and hide whenever you try?
- Do you get called ‘shy’, ‘quiet’, or ‘introspective’?
- Do you feel inadequate, always comparing your own messy insides with everyone else’s shiny outsides?
- Are you desperate to make a difference; to stamp your mark on the world but fear your might offend or disappoint people?
- Are you thirsting to find meaning and purpose in what you do but have no idea where or how to start?
- Maybe you know what you need to do, you just can’t seem to push yourself to take the plunge…
If so then you are probably a gentle rebel.
“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” Freud
This week’s interview is with ‘Musicpreneur’, Tommy Darker, the founder of Darker Music Talks. He inspires musicians (and anyone else willing to listen) to blur the imaginary lines between art and business and take responsibility in creating the sustainable life that is within their grasp.
He has a lot of thoughts that I can wholeheartedly relate to and I for one can’t wait to go and drink coffee with him. But for now, get yourself comfy and enjoy this fascinating foray into the mind of a very interesting man…
My name is Tommy Darker, I’m a Greek and London-based musician and entrepreneur (as I like calling it, a Musicpreneur). I’ve also founded Darker Music Talks, a series of discussions between experts and independent musicians that inspire the concept of Musicpreneurship.
What is the main thing you are focussing your creative energy on at the moment?
Currently I’m focusing on expanding the concept of Darker Music Talks into 13 more countries, in order to encourage and inspire Musicpreneurship to local musicians and connect them with other like-minded artists. In the summer I will get back to my music and will spend the rest of the year focusing on my artistic projects.
I get closer to the front of the line. The shaking gets less containable. Is it obvious?
“Andy, are you alright?” comes the blurry question from somewhere in the background, “you’re being very quiet. Are you scared?”
I’m not sure I have the energy to reply. I’m concentrating. I’m thinking. I need to get myself through this. And they’re not the kinds of questions that will help.
Come on. It’s just a roller coaster. Millions of people ride these things every year. It’s just a ride. In five minutes it’ll be over. I’m not going to die. I’m not going to be hurt. This time tomorrow it’ll all be nothing but a distant memory.
“This too shall pass”
I’m sure you’ve heard it said that ‘life is like a roller coaster’.
Well it’s not.
I mean, if only it really was. Just imagine how nice it would be.
These are some notes I took from an interview between Todd Henry and Simon Sinek on a recent episode of the Accidental Creative Podcast. I found the conversation very inspiring and insightful about what it means to truly lead.
The interview revolves around Simon’s latest book, Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Dont.
Listen to the whole episode here.
In the Marines, Officers eat last. The marines line up in rank order; the most junior person eats first and the most senior person stands at the back of the line. It’s not in the rule book, it’s just their normative understanding of leadership; a responsibility for those in their care, not necessarily just a rank.
If a leader is willing to sacrfice first for their people, then their people will willingly sacrifice for the leader. That’s the very essence of what makes them a leader.
Last week we received a very welcome phone call to say that this case is now closed as the other party have withdrawn their claim. We have received a cheque repaying our excess. This blog post is one I wrote on the 3rd February 2014 in the midst of a ridiculous battle that we were having…
Believing that events from a previous chapter are closed and put to bed can become a massive drain on your mental resources when you realise that they are not. When the past is dragged into the present and you are confronted with something you thought was finished it can have huge consequences on creative and effective work.
Unfinished business is a huge cause of unconscious mental arousal. It can chip away without you realising. I am experiencing something like this right now.
In October we were involved in a car crash. I spoke about it at the time on the podcast. It was the first time I had ever been in an accident and was a pretty horrific ordeal. Our car was written off by someone who ‘didn’t see the Give Way’ sign. She drove straight through the junction and even though I saw her coming we were too close to avoid smashing into the side of her.
This week’s interview is with Jim Woods, the founder and author of jimwoodswrites.com. He writes on the topic of turning ideas into action and making the abstractions of our dreams a tangible reality.
So, grab your coffee, sit back, relax, and enjoy the interview.
Who are you and what do you do?
I’m a husband, dad, and writer pretending to be an accountant. I’m also a coach, teacher, and instigator. I want to make a difference and I often challenge others to do the same.
Do you have a philosophy, motto, quote etc that you live by?
I really like:
“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” by Leonardo DaVinci, and the Golden Rule,
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
We like to apply heavy labels to things that are little more than an expression of ingrained behaviour.
This allows us to justify what we do, and justify why we don’t do what we might want to do.
A year or so ago a friend of mine started going out running.
He didn’t consider himself a runner.
But he had been spurred on by someone (not me) calling him ‘podgy’. That was all it took to get him started.
So he began heading out regularly, running through the pain, and developing a new pattern in his life. After months of grit, discipline and agony he now actually ‘enjoys running’ and does it to relax.
When you talk to him you would now consider him ‘a runner’.