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Welcome to Episode 130 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss why for many introverts and highly sensitive people a diverse range of income streams can be a freeing way to create a much sought-after living filled with meaning and variety.
What comes to mind when you hear the word ‘assertive’?
There is an appetite for it. People want training on “how to be more assertive”, which is a very well worn Google search.
Yet we may also flinch when considering our own mental image of an assertive person. They are aggressive, pushy, domineering, loud, and self-involved, only caring about getting their own point of view heard.
Welcome to Episode 129 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss the tricky relationship that many introverts have with our phones and how we can find alternative ways to communicate with people without annoying them or overwhelming ourselves.
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Last week I met a guy on a training course. It turns out that both of us work part-time and pursue a variety of creative and business endeavours the rest of the time.
It was amazing to meet another creative multipotentialite in that context.
He was a genuinely kind-hearted and fascinating guy who put his real creative dream (that was making good ground) on hold to become a full time carer for a loved one over more than a decade.
Now he was working to pay the bills whilst searching for the true direction he now wants to go.
He said something that made me nod in agreement so vigorously that I thought my head was going to fall off: “I seem to have less hours in the day working part time than I did working full-time – I can’t seem to do everything I would like”.
Me too. Why is that!?
Why is it so hard to fit in everything that you want to do? And why does it feel even harder when you have more time to do it? It doesn’t make sense.
Welcome to Episode 128 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss the inspiring qualities of calm and peaceful people, and what we can do to become more like them.
Two men got out of their cars. The first, a fairly large balding middle aged man had broken his foot, was on crutches and had abandoned his car on a corner, making it awkward for anyone except him to get to the church. He growled something I couldn’t quite decipher as he walked past grumpily.
The other man was on a mobile oxygen dispenser and clearly in a lot of pain. He greeted me with a big smile and told me how happy he was to be out the house and enjoying the sunshine.
Sometimes your only choice is to say yes to something you know is right despite the fact you don’t have a plan, you don’t know what you’re doing, or how you’re going to cope. This can be scary.
In this episode I tell a story of when this happened to me and why not having everything worked out before I began was one of the most important experiences of my life. We don’t need to know the master plan before we can get stuck in and make a real and meaningful difference in the world.
Knowledge can be a dangerous thing.
‘I never thought I WAS weird!’ came the abrupt reply. ‘It’s everyone else that’s got the problem’.
I was taken aback.
It was a few years ago and I was having a conversation with a lady about what it meant for us when we realised we were introverts. I was just starting to discover what it meant for me, and said ‘isn’t it nice to realise you’re not actually completely weird!?’
She launched into a tirade of abuse about all the weirdos who didn’t understand her. For starters, there were the complaints she had received about the way she spoke in public when she was delivering presentations.
She went on, ‘they say I’m too quiet and they can’t hear me. But I’m peaceful and calm, just because they’re not used to it, that shouldn’t mean that I have to change. They need to get over themselves.’
Problems are often only problems when we believe them to be and look at them as such. If you’re an introvert then chances are you have been led to believe that certain aspects of your natural response to the world are problematic because they don’t relate comfortably with the expectations of society’s norms.
In this episode of the podcast I explore 5 apparent ‘problems’ that introverts may feel like they experience at times. My aim is to encourage you to see these problems not as problems at all but to recognise them instead as liberating parts of your character that do in fact contribute to your unique greatness.
The social life of an introvert can be a confusing thing. One minute you want to spend time with people, the next minute you wish you hadn’t made those plans for later. There are days when your social energies are depleted by the mere thought of being sociable, but then once you get there it’s great and you end up staying far longer than expected.
As humans we have an innate guard against things that are ‘bad for us’ and as introverts this may mean a conflicting relationship with activities that will potentially drain our energy more quickly.
On the one hand we need and crave time with others, yet it’s not the direction we are always naturally orientated towards. We are also very content in our own company and a quiet Friday night in may be our ultimate idea of fun. At least it is for me.