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“When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better” – Unknown
We all have habits in our lives that we would like to change.
Maybe your experience of futile attempts at making sustainable transformation in your life have made you frustrated and even pessimistic. You think twice about making yet another commitment to the same old thing; losing weight, learning an instrument, becoming a better friend, working on writing the book you keep talking about.
We know what needs to change, but whenever we take the plunge before long we seem to just slip back into the old habits once again.
Welcome to Episode 134 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode we consider ways to approach the inevitable social hangovers that we all experience as introverts and highly sensitive people.
I share a number of Don’ts that I have learned over the years from times like these.
“Anger is an intense and flammable emotion that we might be uncomfortable with, but we need to become comfortable with it because we all have it inside and if we’re trying to suppress it then it can display in more unhealthy ways. Anger is helpful and clean.” – Caroline van Kimmenade (The Happy Sensitive)
How do you feel when you see injustice and unfairness? What does it do to you inside?
Chances are they get to you in some way. They speak to the core of your being where your heart beats for change with a longing for things to be different.
There is a positive anger that responds within you. A clean and helpful anger. A signal that many sensitive types experience when their mind and body are calling something to attention.
Anger can get placed on a list of so-called negative emotions; things such as fear, anxiety, sadness, and jealousy. It is a strong emotion, it can feel volatile and we are taught in many areas of life, to bottle it up.
But it’s important to let it speak so that we can choose our response to it. It is OK to get angry. The experience of anger itself is not the problem. It’s how you deal with and respond to the anger is where things can get messy.
By Andy Mort
Welcome to Episode 133 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I look at the ways in which guilt prevents us from protecting and making the most of our solitude.
A few years ago I knackered the battery in my old laptop by leaving it plugged in for too long. I didn’t really think much harm would come from “keeping the computer charged”, but in so doing I was de-conditioning it and essentially turning it obsolete.
I receive a lot of emails from people wanting to know how to get over their social anxiety as introverts. Just do a quick Google search and it is clear that there is a strong link between introversion, shyness, and social anxiety.
Despite the fact that there are many studies and articles which debunk the myth that introversion equals anxiety, it doesn’t seem quite so simple. Why is this?
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Welcome to Episode 132 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I look at ‘burnout'; addressing what it is and how we can recognise the early warning signs that we are suffering. You may have noticed that it is a common topic, especially in advice for introverts and highly sensitive people.
Have you noticed that we are told a lot of rubbish things about what it means to be ‘creative’?
The stories of what a creative person does, looks like, how they live, and what kind of beliefs they have etc. These themselves are little more than a product of our romantic imagination. Because the truth is creativity is not for the privileged few. It’s for all of us.
Believe it or not we all have creativity pulsing through our veins.
Many people however, sadly stop believing in their own innate creativity because they don’t work in a so called ‘creative profession’. But this attitude is misleading, potentially damaging, and can really prevent us from expressing deep and important parts of who we are.
There are certain ways of expressing ourselves that come very naturally to us but we stop exploring them because we don’t want to pursue them in a ‘serious way’.
I see music, drawing and writing as the big ones. They are understood and shared by all of us; they are how we make sense of the world.
Welcome to Episode 131 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss the strange thing that can happen to our attitude when we sit in the driving seat of a car. What does it tell us about how we relate to one another more generally?
I explore ways in which we can intervene and engage in a gentle revolution of the road, developing more empathic connections with strangers.
We open loops up every day. Each one can become a drain on our energy and emotional wellbeing if we don’t know how to close or complete them.
Are you aware of the open loops in your life?
A tap is a loop. We open it because we want water. This is good. But if we fail to turn it back the other way, to close the loop the water continues coming out and can cause problems. It gets wasted and maybe worse, it could cause flooding and permanent damage to the environment around it.
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Welcome to Episode 130 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I discuss why for many introverts and highly sensitive people a diverse range of income streams can be a freeing way to create a much sought-after living filled with meaning and variety.