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Soap operas are a fictitious exercise of life stretched, magnified, and unravelled. They show us life as it isn’t quite. Far-fetched but kind of believable. And we connect with them. The drama, the simplicity, and the flawed yet idealistic ways the characters interact with life.
“I want to experience your vulnerability but I don’t want to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me. I’m drawn to your vulnerability but repelled by mine.”
– Brené Brown (Daring Greatly)
Welcome to Episode 141 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I look at some of the factors that hold us back from daring to be vulnerable, and what we can do to take little steps to unleash our gentle insides on the world.
Disappointment is a great emotion. I mean, I hate it. I try to avoid it at all costs, and it can fill me with fear. But I’m beginning to realise that because it sucks so much it has something to tell us worth listening to.
Disappointment is the state or feeling of being disappointed, which is either “to fail to fulfil the expectations or wishes”, or “to defeat, thwart or frustrate the fulfilment of (hopes, plans, etc.)”.
We experience it when reality doesn’t match up to our hopes or imagination.
Welcome to Episode 140 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this week’s show I explore how we find meaning in the world according to Brian Little’s definitions of personal projects.
In his latest book, Me, Myself, and Us, Professor Brian Little says that we no longer think in terms of nature vs nurture as two sides of a debate. Rather consensus is emerging to say that the key thing to think about is how we nurture our natures.
And so “third natures arise out of the personal commitments and core projects that we pursue in our daily lives. Under this new perspective genes influence us as do our circumstances, but we are not hostage to them.”
Have you noticed that ‘Enough’ is always just around the corner? It’s close. Nearly there. But hey, just one more to make sure.
You’ll know what I mean if you’ve ever spent time with a young child doing something they find fun. Laughter and demands of ‘again! again!’ quickly turn to distress and intense anguish as you attempt to terminate the game after a few hours.
‘One more’ may become another ‘final one’ and will keep doing so through ‘ok last time’ and then eventually ‘seriously, this really is the very final time this time’. At which point they may be so worn out by the fun that they have an uncontrollable breakdown, and demand even more of the very thing that took them over the edge into emotional destruction.
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Welcome to Episode 139 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I give my reflections on Sensitive (The Untold Story), the movie released last week all about the trait of High Sensitivity.
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I go to Intentions University. I am on course for a very good grade. I am enrolled on many different courses; Creative Projects, Language Learning, Social Interactions, Exercise etc. There are others as well. I think I have a list somewhere…no, tell a lie, I’ve been meaning to write them down.
List writing is a popular module early on when we study Procrastination Law.
In my mind I have a list of people I want to write to: the thank yous, the condolences, the ‘I was thinking of yous’ that I know are small gestures that can make a huge impact. It’s a list I rarely get round to doing anything about.
Yet I am aware that in reality it’s one of the most important to do lists in my possession.
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Have you ever knowingly made a ‘free trait agreement’?
Perhaps you stepped out of your comfort zone to make something happen, even though doing so was ‘out of character’ for you.
Welcome to Episode 138 of the Sheep Dressed Like Wolves Podcast. In this episode I explore the power of practice on our ability to communicate ideas, stories, and ourselves in clear and simple ways.
Do you ever wonder what makes some people really good at getting their point across, while the rest of us struggle to communicate what we’re thinking?
The news is good because rather than it simply being a case that certain people are naturally gifted, the truth is they are good because they have done something all of us are able to do…
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The ‘open-plan’ office, communal workspace. How does it make you feel?
It is a concept that originated in the 1950’s in Germany by a team looking to increase the flow of ideas and communication within teams and organisations.
More recent studies however are beginning to suggest that this is not quite the solution they were looking for. In fact it even perpetuates the very problem that the open-plan office purported to solve.
And these kinds of setups are detrimental for introverts and highly sensitive people. The uncontrolled interactions, higher levels of stress, and lower levels of concentration and motivation affect everyone, but have an even more significant impact on those of us who are internally orientated to the world.
In many ways the workplace is an important frontier for us to question as a part of the ‘quiet revolution’. As a place where self-confidence can be made and broken, we must address certain environments as unsuitable and even damaging to half of those people trying to work in them.