Sheep Dressed Like Wolves -
This post was written by Andy Mort
We are skilled at turning healthy choices, good habits and a more active lifestyle that leads to better wellbeing into gruelling discipline.
The language we often use around making better choices for our health and wellbeing. It might be eating wholesome foods, getting regular exercise, and a decent dose of regular creativity, we turn the best choices into the hardest ones.
Our world and our priorities are set up by the language we use. We cloak living better under the blanket of ‘should’ and engage in self-abuse as if it’s the natural order. But what if it isn’t? What if we’ve just been conditioned to believe that the lazy choice is the natural way?
Has your sensitivity to a situation or person ever taken you away from your own deep values or preferences?
In her book, Introvert Power, Laurie Helgoe talks about ways in which introverts create a reality for ourselves through some of our passive communication. For example, while listening to someone complaining it can be dangerous to nod your head to show that you’re hearing what they say. Some people take that as you agreeing.
Laurie even had a news correspondent report her as believing the opposite of what she believed. He assumed her nod to acknowledge she was listening was in fact agreement with what he was saying.
…I had a similar experience with a rock cake (you’ll have to listen to the show to hear more…)
Councillors need councillors. Mentors need mentors. Anyone who is in a job where their primary task is listening to others, is usually obliged to have some way of expressing themselves. I believe preventative support should be provided in other jobs as well, and not reserved simply for treating problems once they arise.
So much of our world is geared towards treating symptoms rather than prevention of the causes.
It’s the same with HSPs and introverts. We get exhausted and burned out when we don’t regularly clear out the system. When we spend time listening to others, receiving information, and being bombarded with messages. If we don’t have creative ways of processing and releasing it inevitably comes to a head and boils over in some way.
If you want to be the most effective version of yourself and really thrive then you need to think about prevention rather than cure.
By Andy Mort
Benjamin Franklin famously said “there will be sleeping enough in the grave”.
What was he implying?
Over time I think it’s taken on a sense of meaning, which fits with an industrialised, ever-busy, never-satisfied way of being.
It has become a sentiment which we use to paint sleep as an enemy. You know, the impatient friend jollying you along: ‘come on you party pooper, there’s no time to rest. We have too much stuff to do and see. You’ll get loads of time to sleep when you’re dead’.
High Processing Sensitivity (being sensitive to subtleties in the world around) has been an important trait in human evolutionary history. It is widely accepted that Highly Sensitive People have been pretty vital in navigating us safely through the various dangers we face as a human race.
We hear a lot about external overwhelm; the high processing sensitivity of HSPs to sensory inputs like sudden loud noises, smells, fluorescent lights, tastes, textures and the like. There is another source of HSP overwhelm; unseen but intrinsically linked to external stimulation. Sensitivity to our own inner chatterbox.
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Are you naturally interested in what goes on beneath the surface?
One of the characteristics of introverted people is that they create their energy when “focussing more on the inner world of thoughts and ideas”. Whereas more extroverted people achieve ‘highs’ from their surroundings and external experiences.
But what does ‘the inner world of thoughts and ideas’ mean? Can we enjoy this part of who we are without turning into self-absorbed antisocial ego maniacs?
And anyway…it’s not all about OUR thoughts and ideas.
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Our world suffers from a chronic self-esteem deficit.
We judge externalities and are forever encouraged to compare ourselves with one another. Capitalist society is built on this foundation.